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Favorites of 2013 (to be expanded)

December 31, 2013

Whoa that was fast. The craziest and most unpredictable year of my life is almost over. WordPress notified me last night that I only published 26 posts this year or something like that. Sorry I didn’t write more. I’m gonna try to get better at that, as usual. Anyway, I wanted to share with you a brief list of some of my favorite things from the year.

Top 10 Movies:

1. Pacific Rim

2. Upstream Color

3. Gravity

4. The Hunger Games: Catching Fire

5. Before Midnight

6. Into the Wonder

7. The Place Beyond the Pines

8. TheWorld’s End

9. Fast & Furious 6

10. The Grandmaster

I actually only saw three other movies in theaters, but I didn’t really like ‘em. They were FrozenSide Effects, and something else. I forget. Oh right, it was Captain Philipps. That was pretty good I thought.

Top 9 Albums

1. Brother the Lights Don’t Work by The Rutabega

2. Horseradish by Nate Henricks

3. Reflektor by Arcade Fire

4. The Next Day by David Bowie

5. North America Ghost Radio Station by YOUNGEST CHILDREN

6. …Like Clockwork by Queens of the Stone Age

7. Shaking the Habitual by The Knife

8. Eternity of Dimming by Frontier Ruckus

9. Chelsea Light Moving by Chelsea Light Moving

#10 would probably be the Nine Inch Nails album or the fourth Bronx record, but for some reason I haven’t really listened to them yet.

My New Year’s Resolution is to watch more movies.

Cordial Invitations

November 25, 2013

Dear Reader,

You are cordially invited to join me for an evening of rock ‘n roll this Wednesday evening at the Empty Bottle at 1035 N. Western in Chicago. I will be at your  service for all your low-frequency needs by playing the bass guitar in Jet W. Lee at 9pm sharp. Tickets are available for the low low price of ten dollars here. We will be opening the evening, followed by sets from The PhenomsThe Safes, and The Differents. I can’t promise you that you’ll have a good time, but I can promise you that if you don’t, it’s your own fault.

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But that’s not all! I also cordially invite you to join me (and many other inspiring presenters) for PechaKucha Night Chicago, an evening of “design, architecture, art, and beer” next Tuesday evening, December 3rd, 2013 at Martyrs’ at 3855 N. Lincoln Avenue. I will take the stage for 400 seconds to present The Lernen to Talk ShowPast, Present, and Future (or something along those lines). It’s gonna be awesome. Again, tickets are only $10! You can reserve yours by clicking right… here.

The date's wrong in this image, sorry. Actual date is December 2, 2013.

The date’s wrong in this image, sorry. Actual date is December 3, 2013.

Have a very happy Thanksgiving, everybody! See you on Wednesday.

-M.M.

Goofbone Zambonis His Way to a Sweeter Oasis

November 18, 2013
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My friend Chris drew a portrait of me today. He named it Goofbone Zambonis His Way to a Sweeter Oasis, which I feel aptly describes not only this illustration, but my life in general. Thank you very much for this, Chris.

Yes, it was drawn on a piece of cardboard. And yes, my wheels are heptagonal. And if you want to understand what I’m referring to in the picture, you should listen to The Best Show on WFMU.

May all your oases be sweet.

-M.M.

On Depression

November 15, 2013

“I never want to forget another day that I’ve ever lived.” - Cesar Kuriyama

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About a year and a half ago, I was made aware of a project its creator Cesar Kuriyama calls 1 Second Everyday. It’s a simple concept, but seeing his first video moved me in ways I did not expect. I couldn’t believe how this frantic glimpse into a stranger’s life could evoke such emotion in me. I thought, “what if I actually were to know this guy?” And then I thought, “what if I was this guy?” How amazing would it be to have this six minute record of my own year? I share many of the misgivings Mr. Kuriyama articulates when describing the inspiration for the project in his TED Talk. My whole life I’ve hated the fact that I couldn’t tell you something I did on any given day in my past. I was keeping a daily journal, but days would inevitably slip through. Pulling a camera out of my pocket for an instant every day was something I knew I wouldn’t have an excuse to put off or forget. When I first saw the project last March I resolved to immediately begin my own second per day video.

But for some reason I could not properly get into the habit. I would film every day for a week and then I would suddenly realize I’d missed a couple days. This wasn’t such a big deal because I knew it didn’t really matter when I started, because I would start eventually. For months it continued to be that way. Starting, stopping, justifying.

And then in September of last year something happened that put me in a bad place emotionally. I found myself suddenly unable to enjoy the day to day, despite my day to day being very special. I was on tour with my brother’s band, playing shows every night and  getting to know my country again after a year away. I knew in my head that my life was wonderful, short, a gift meant to be enjoyed. But in my heart I was struggling to feel that. As much as I wouldn’t allow myself to admit it, I was depressed.

The funny (and by that I mean not funny at all) thing about depression is that it intensifies when recognized. I would feel terrible, and then I would feel worse because, well, “how dare I feel terrible? My life is good.” I was in the throes of this feedback loop when I remembered the one second per day project that I was still delaying. I thought about how the moments of those dark days were in themselves wonderful, beautiful. It was my own perspective that was distorting that simple truth. On September 28th I took out my camera and pressed a button twice, knowing that I would appreciate having that moment saved for me to look at later. On September 29th I did it again, and I continued doing it every day. I found myself looking forward to doing it. I found myself seeking images that were especially nice, and for the instant I had my camera out I knew that yes, this is a good moment. That daily positive affirmation became very important for me, and I knew that someday I’d be able to watch these moments and remember the day surrounding it and enjoy it, hopefully untarnished (or perhaps enhanced?) by the memory of the mood I was in.

I continued every day for a year and now I would like to share the result. I am pleased to report that my plan worked. I love looking back on days that I didn’t exactly love living at the time. And that’s a powerful feeling, because the other funny (read: not at all funny) thing about depression is that when it’s there, it does not feel like it will ever go away. But it does. It always does.

I know that talking about being depressed isn’t the coolest thing in the world. But I also know that helping people is the coolest thing in the world. That’s why I wanted to share with you not only the video I made, but the motivation behind it. Maybe someone will read this who doesn’t feel so good today, and maybe he or she will have a shiny new tool to use against that force so many of us don’t dare to admit we feel.

-M.M.

P.S. If you want to make your own video, Mr. Kuriyama sells what appears to be an amazing app that makes it very easy to do it yourself! I would totally buy it if I had a smart phone.

On Love

November 13, 2013

My body is confused. I woke up an hour ago at 10:30pm to the sound of what I thought was my alarm clock telling me it was 5:00am but was in fact my uncle calling me. I had been asleep since 5:30pm. All of this is undoubtedly the result of my recent decision to try Crossfit, a brand of exercise that actually brands itself by eschewing any notion of “brand” and leaving its participants’ bodies craving large bowls of Cheerios at 11 o’clock at night. (Note to self: investigate any possible correlations between Crossfit’s origins and General Mills.)

I couldn’t fall back asleep and instead turned to my ever-growing list of “things to check out later on the internet” and ended up listening to a commencement speech given by a lady by the name of Debbie Millman. In it she encourages the eager graduates to consider making choices that might not be so in line with standard expectations and instead, as seems to be required in commencement speeches, to “do what you love”.

The funny thing about “do what you love” is that the people who say that are almost always older and smarter than the people being told that. It’s a kind thing to say, much like “be yourself”, etc. But it’s also a completely meaningless thing to say to someone who hasn’t had the experience necessary to acquire any confidence in his or her passions. Before you can do what you love, you need to know what you love.

I’m trying to remember the first time it was presumed that I knew what I loved. I feel as though I’ve been told to do what I love for my entire life. It seems absurd to imagine a five-year-old me being given that advice, so it must have been later than that. You know, it was probably at my eighth grade commencement speech. It’s funny now to think about my middle school principal writing a speech for a bunch of kids about to go to high school, but I’d be willing to bet that he told us to do what we loved. What else could he have said?

I know what I would tell a group of fourteen-year-olds, should I ever have the honor to give a middle school commencement address: “Figure out what you love. From now on, a lot of people are going to be telling you to do what you love. It will be meaningless but you should thank them for the good advice and use it as a reminder to keep trying to figure out what you love. You’re fourteen. You don’t love anything. Well maybe you love Rage Against the Machine and low-cut t-shirts, but you don’t actually love those things. I mean, maybe you do, I mean, it’s all relative. But you’ll love other things more than that later in life. Or maybe you won’t. Oh jeez, I should have thought more about this before I got up here. Life’s hard and wait a minute, no it’s not. You are kids in suburban Chicago about to go to a high school that you can walk to and from safely. Why am I giving this speech again?”

Don’t worry about doing what you love. That’s a 21st century luxury that was invented by people who want to give commencement speeches and the kind of people who make stuff like this. Just love. The rest will take care of itself.

-M.M.

I Will Not Be Your Facebook Friend

November 7, 2013

Note: This post originally appeared on my Facebook profile one week ago.

Dear Facebook Friends,

First of all, sorry for the harsh seeming title for this thing I’m writing right now. I don’t mean it to be unfriendly, it’s just a fact. In one week I will once again be deactivating my Facebook account, and I don’t intend to return. Of course, that could change again one day, much like it did six weeks ago when I dusted off my profile to promote that competition I had entered. But I’m inclined to believe that won’t happen.

Facebook is a magnificently useful tool. I don’t doubt that it will endure as one of the things that most significantly changed human history, let alone our generation. On a global scale and on a personal scale, Facebook provides services the value of which no one can deny.

So why should I step away from this part of the internet? It has given me so much! The support I received from so many people for that aforementioned contest is just a fraction of the good that I’ve gleaned from Facebook since reactivating my account. I reconnected with old friends, I laughed at funny jokes, I received heartwarming messages from strangers, I heard some wonderful new music, I went to concerts I otherwise wouldn’t have known about, I saw pictures of my friend’s baby, who I had never seen before! All of this stuff is really, really great.

But at the end of the day, while I love all of these things very much, the fact is, I don’t love Facebook. I’ve tried to determine why that is, and I’ve had many conversations about it with people who enjoy Facebook, people who think it’s a necessary evil, people who’ve never opened Facebook, and people who have also periodically opened and closed their accounts. I’m perfectly comfortable with my decision to not use Facebook, but in the effort to make a cordial departure, I’ll try to explain what it is about it that I’d rather not have in my life.

For me it really comes down to a conversation that I had with a friend of mine shortly before the last time I deactivated my account, about a year ago. She was one of the last of my friends to ever make a Facebook account, and she was the first to deactivate her account entirely and not come back. She explained to me her reasoning, which I feel touches perfectly with my own feelings. I don’t think that everyone will agree. But I agree. She said that when she would visit this website, it would either be A: in order to post something she’s excited about or proud of or interested in or B: as something to do while bored. In case A, she would be met with “likes” and comments and approval in many forms, and she would feel good about herself. She’d feel cool. In case B, she would scroll through and see all of the things that her friends were excited about or proud of or interested in, and she would feel uncool, because she’s not doing anything cool, she’s just being bored on Facebook. These are two caricatured cases to emphasize the extremes, but they are definitely both cases that I have experienced myself. And perhaps that’s more indicative of a personal self-esteem problem than it is of a need to stop using Facebook, but the fact remains that Facebook is, among other things, a stage to jump onto or jump off of in order to compare oneself to others.

Another friend of mine once shared with me the two things he knows to be true in life: You shouldn’t ever think, “if only it had been this way” or “if only I had done this differently”, and you shouldn’t ever compare yourself with other people. I agree with those things, and I think that by not being on Facebook I will do less of the latter. That’s reason enough for me to be leaving.

The most sensible objection I’ve heard and anticipate hearing more is, “why don’t you just go on it less? Why don’t you just use it to keep in touch with friends and that’s all?” My answer to that is, I can’t. When I have a Facebook account I tend to automatically log on like I automatically check my email, and I usually don’t log off until I’ve already missed the chance to do whatever productive thing I was planning on doing when I went to my computer. It’s a weird addiction, and I honestly don’t feel that I can control it. And you might say, “of course you can control it! You just need to try harder!” But I just don’t think it’s worth trying harder. I think I can keep in touch with people well enough without it. And the positive things it brings me and has brought me don’t justify the negative costs.

Again, let me emphasize that I’m just talking about myself here. I do believe there is responsible, positive Facebook use. I just don’t think it’s for me.

I won’t be checking my Facebook account anymore after I post this. I’ll leave the account open for one more week, and then in a week I’ll sign in, read and respond to whatever comments may have been left on this post, and then I’ll deactivate. I apologize for the inconvenience I may be causing anyone trying to communicate with me, but this is a personal decision and it’s important to me. Now, as before, and continuing forever (unless otherwise indicated) I am best reached online by email at m________@_____.com. My phone number is 323-___-_____.

I also will continue writing stuff on my blog at http://fourththing.wordpress.com and on Twitter, where my username is @mickeymangan

And now I will try to provide As to any Qs you might have:

Q: Wait, you have a blog? Isn’t that the same kind of digital self-promoting garbage you are leaving Facebook to avoid?

A: Well, yeah. I guess it is. Isn’t that weird? But it’s also a little different. My blog won’t ever show up uninvited on your screen. You’re simply welcome to go there whenever you want if you’re interested in witnessing me forcing myself to practice writing.

Q: Okay, but how do you explain having a Twitter account?

A: I never said I didn’t like trying to make people laugh or share things I find interesting. Twitter’s really good for that. It’s a fun way to connect with new people around the world while somehow sparing me the feeling of being intrusive that I get on Facebook. Also, Twitter limits the amount you’re allowed to write in a post. I think that limits encourage creativity. Facebook doesn’t have limits. (None that I’m aware of, anyway.)

Q: How are you going to keep up with friends you made while traveling?

A: The same way I’ll keep up with you. We’ll be friends.

Q: This whole post makes you come across as self-important. Why do you think people care so much?

A: Yeah, I guess it is a little presumptuous to think that someone would even care or notice that I’ve left Facebook. I know that many people hadn’t noticed the last time. But I figure that maybe somebody would wonder at some point, and maybe this will save them any concern. Besides, isn’t that what Facebook is for? Feeling important?

If you can think of any other Qs, post them in the comments and I’ll A ‘em in a week. That’d also be a good place to post any links to what you’re up to so that I can bookmark them.

Please stay in touch. I will too. And remember, just because I’m not on Facebook doesn’t mean I won’t donate to your charity or back your Kickstarter campaign or run in your 5K or read that thing you wrote or go to your concert or buy your record. Just shoot me an email. 

Peace,

Mickey.

A Few Words on this Whole Thing While it’s Still Relevant

October 18, 2013
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Courtesy of Joseph Altshuler

Good morning dear readers, the sun is shining and the birds are chirping and today I get to see my brother for the first time in eight months. It’ll be a good day. I wanted to update you on a few things  about the status of that job for which I’m applying. As I mentioned previously, I am one of 50 people still in consideration to become the Chief World Explorer, out of over 3000 original applicants. Now we are down to the wire, and Jauntaroo has just made the announcement that they will be making the announcement of the Final Five this coming Tuesday, October 22nd. I honestly feel that I have done everything I can to be one of those five, and I suppose, like with any casting, it’s now just a question of what they’re looking for. Maybe I fit, maybe I don’t.

I’ve thought for a long time about this competition and what it all means, and before I even made my first video I came to the conclusion that I don’t deserve this job. I honestly believe that no one deserves this job. In fact, I believe that Jauntaroo believes that no one actually deserves to be paid $100,000 to travel around the world and make videos about it. Jauntaroo is simply pushing a budget beyond its usual reach by getting a massive amount of talented people to tirelessly promote their company for two months. It’s brilliant, really. Someone will indeed be earning $100,000 in 2014 to do what’s outlined in the job description, but the work that person does will really just be the top of a pyramid, the foundation of which was already built by people like Braden Herndon, Abigail Courroy, John Beede, Ryan Danz, Steve MoracoCassidy Quinn, and, well, thousands of other people. I urge you to browse the Jauntaroo page this weekend to watch as many of the 50 Finalists’ videos as you can because, if it’s anything like the last time Jauntaroo downsized the pool, on Tuesday these videos will all be long gone (or harder to find, anyway). These people are the real deal. Being Chief World Explorer is a job that appeals to dreamers. And dreamers are the people that make this planet worth exploring in the first place. Every single one of those people on that site is going to be doing something awesome next year. So keep an eye on them.

If Jauntaroo chooses me to explore the world for you, I know that I will do the job very well. I’ve put every ounce of energy I have into proving that to you and to myself during the last eight (!) weeks. And you’d better believe that energy will be there when I’m assigned my first mission in January. And if it turns out that someone else is getting on that plane, well, I’ll probably be disappointed for a while. But in the end it would just mean that I’ll have to find an even better job. Whatever happens, I’m glad I entered this competition. Thanks to this company I’d never even heard of until August 22nd, 2013, I have…

1. …gotten a song I recorded to be heard 7,822 times (as of this posting). Well, a fragment of an instrumental version of it, anyway.

2. …learned how to make awesome looking t-shirts using freezer paper and bleach (and t-shirts).

3. …caused a stir in Hudson County.

4. …been called a “nice enough sort” by Tom Scharpling on my all-time favorite radio show/podcast (see October 1st, around 01:21:00).

5. …discovered a new love for poetry.

6. …convinced the weatherman at WGN Morning News to wish my brother good luck on his first meteorology midterm (wait for the very end).

7. …gotten used to being greeted by people I haven’t seen in ages with the word “Jauntaroo!” (I can see this becoming annoying if I don’t get the job.)

8. …grown to trust that I can make sweet stuff.

9. …been grouped with 49 of the most interesting people I probably never would have otherwise gotten the chance to know. #CWETop50, I hope we get to meet in person someday. And don’t worry. If I get this job, drinks are on me any time we see each other, for life.

Thank you to everyone who has clicked that orange “LIKE” button, shared my videos, or given me words of encouragement. I am truly grateful to have gotten this opportunity to explore my creativity in a more public way than usual. If I’m as lucky as I feel right now, then I’ll get to make much more for you in the coming year.

Oh and don’t worry, Poems with Mickey will continue at its regularly scheduled time until the Chief World Explorer is named.

Peace,

-M.M.

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